Experiencing The Big “O”
- Cream In My Coffee
- Jul 18, 2023
- 7 min read
Did you know that more than 90% of men usually experience orgasm during intercourse while only 50% of women experience it? It seems like an unfair ratio. As we grow older and explore more of our bodies we learn new things about the vagina everyday – from how it works, how to care for it, and how to pleasure it.
The female orgasm is often depicted as the center of a woman’s sexual satisfaction and the ultimate goal of sex. But many women don’t experience an orgasm during sexual intercourse until their 20s or even 30s, and the number of women who say that they always or nearly always have one during sex is declining.
Statistics show that lesbian women experience orgasms about 75% of time with their partner. Bisexul women experience orgasms about 58% of the time. Heterosexual women experience orgasms about 62% of the time. It's been reported that 10% of women never orgasm in their lifetime.
FACTORS THAT DETERMINE AN ORGASM
Your mind (thoughts) (getting in your head you can lose focus). The more you think, the less you can relax. Focus on the act itself.
Age
Beliefs
Relationships
Sexual trauma
There's no concrete answer as to why lesbians most consistently experience orgasms with one another. However, it could be because women understand a women's bodies better, and maybe there’s less pressure to orgasm during intercourse.
Most orgasms happen through clitoral stimulation. This brings us to a key question: How many types of female orgasms are there?
Types of female orgasm
Clitoral Orgasm - This is a type of orgasm that you get by stimulating the clit through fingers or toys.
G-Spot Orgasm - Involves the penetration and stimulation of the g-spot located a few inches inside the vagina.
Anal Orgasm - Has you achieving orgasm by stimulating the inner and outer areas of the anus with your hands or toys.
Nipple Orgasm - Could be used for foreplay or in the thick of sex and mainly has you or your partner stimulating your nipples.
Blended Orgasm - Is what happens when two erogenous zones are simultaneously stimulated to lead you into a stronger release.
Multiple Orgasm - Is the event where women or people with vaginas orgasm more than once.
Squirting Orgasm - This is a type of orgasm where the release consists of a much clearer liquid unlike the type that comes out of a regular orgasm and usually happens after that first release.
Coregasm - Is the orgasm that comes from the intense tension and release from exercising.
Sleep Orgasm - This is the type of orgasm that comes from having a wet dream.
We’re going to focus on discussing 2 types of orgasms: vaginal and clitoral...
Difference between Vagina Orgasm and Clitoral Orgasm:
• Clitoral orgasms is focused on the clitoris, making it intense and satisfying, but short-lived.
• The vaginal orgasm involves penetration, it means that the focal point of stimulation is on the g-spot and a-spot.
WHAT ARE THE G-SPOT & A-SPOT???
•The proper name for G-Spot is Gräfenberg spot. It’s a highly sensitive, rather swollen spot located a few inches inside the vagina.
•The A-spot is located between the front vaginal wall and the cervix. To get a better idea of their positions, the a-spot is located a bit further in than the G-spot.
THE IMPORTANCE OF FOREPLAY
• if you skip the foreplay, it will take you longer to orgasm as opposed to warming yourself up and bringing all of your senses at a height.
Best Sex Positions for Vaginal Orgasm:
G-Whiz: We're starting off strong with a position that requires you lying down on your back and your partner lifting your legs up and resting them on their shoulders. Your hips are suspended in the air, giving you the opportunity to trust your partner to do all the dirty work, and giving your partner the chance to use their penis to reach your g-spot or a-spot for stimulation.
Whirl: This position requires a bit more strength and balance unlike the last one. The whirl takes on the shape of the helicopter wings on a spin because your partner is seated with their feet planted on the floor while you sit on their lap and lean back at more or less, a 45-degree angle. To make sure no one flies off and hurts themselves, don't forget to hold hands and use both of your upper body strength to establish stability even when your partner is grinding or thrusting their way inside of you.
Closed for Business: This position uses the mouth instead of a penis which is refreshing and perfect for couples who may not be in the mood for penetration. Plus, it's simple to do – just lay back on the bed and let your partner's talented mouth and tongue lick, bite and suck their way around and in your vagina. There's going to be a ton of tongue-action there so expect a river of saliva by the time your partner's done with you.
Drop-Box: Last but not the least, let's end with a banger – the Drop Box. This is similar to the Whiz but the difference is that you're lying down on the edge of the bed while your partner penetrates you ala-missionary style. This is perfect for the ones who want the thrill but are not ready to go all out. It's also suitable for couples who want to use a couple's play toy and focus on using that toy in conjunction with their thrusts.
11 Toys She Needs For A Faster Orgasm
Sex toys are great additions in the bedroom especially with a partner. Besides, just changing things up and using toys can be a great way to have a faster and more powerful orgasm. There are many toys to help you orgasm. However, we chose only which we felt were the best ones, specifically focused on a woman, since women struggle more than men to orgasm.
#1. Clitoral Gels
There are a variety of clitoral stimulating gels / creams out there on the market specifically designed to assist women with orgasm and, sometimes, to get her to orgasm more quickly! Clitoral gels are designed to bring the blood flow to the clitoris and help with engorgement. This engorgement will heighten arousal and, therefore, give her a leg up to achieving the climax. Crazy Girl gels or Viva Cream are just two of the best clitoral gels available.
#2. Dual Action Vibrators
Dual action vibrators are vibrations which provide internal stimulation through a vibrating shaft but which also have some semblance of a connected clitoral stimulator which will provide simultaneous stimulation. This 1-2 combo of the internal and external stimulation will not only increase chances of orgasm in general, but also a much faster O.
#3. Rabbit Vibes
A rabbit vibe is a very specific kind of dual action. They have a patented (and proven to be kick ass) clitoral stimulator that is slim bunny ears. These little bunny ears tend to flick the clit in a very gentle way and combined with the internal stimulation provided by the vibrating shaft, the combination is often the most successful for quick orgasm of the dual options!
#4. Bullets & Eggs
Bullets are truly a woman’s best friend. They can (and should) be used alone and with sex. Bullets are tiny vibrators – often less than 5 inches at max – and provide powerful and direct stimulation right at the heart of a woman’s sexual erogenous zones – the clitoris. Bullets seem to increase orgasm speed especially when used during intercourse and are small enough to be used without interfering with the act of sex.
#5. Magic Wand Massagers
When I think of powerful vibes the most powerful vibrator I can imagine is a Hitachi (or other brand) massager wand. They are a combination of powerful vibrations that move through a padded stimulator end. The surface area combined with the strength of vibration often can elicit extremely fast and powerful orgasms.
#6. Couples Stimulators
There are a wide range of items designed to be used by couples DURING sex. Mostly cock rings with tiny vibrators or even the unique WeVibe which is a clitoral and G-Spot vibrator that is used during sex. Either option can increase the speed of orgasm because it will actively stimulate her clitoris during insertion (penetration) and this combination is more likely to induce orgasm.
#7. Anal Plugs
Don’t shoot the messenger here – but many women actually like anal penetration and will get more aroused and have more powerful and faster orgasms when they combine sex or toy play with anal stimulation. Anal plugs come in a variety of sizes and shapes and are also available in vibrating and non-vibrating. Sometimes just having anal stimulation will do the trick; other times the benefit comes from the vibrations.
#8. Large Dildos
Just like with anything, dildos and vibrators come in all shapes and sizes. There are many marketed as “large” dildos or vibrators because their girth is, well, large. If you are a woman who can orgasm through internal stimulation, having a toy that will stretch and stimulate the insides of your vagina more fully may be a way to induce orgasm more quickly.
#9. Thrusting Vibes
The wonderful world of vibrators now contains a new selection of dual actions that “thrust” in and out during play, to mimic the more natural way that intercourse happens. Thrusting vibes can be an extremely intense experience for some women and the combination of the thrusting, vibration and clitoral stimulation will often bring her to climax more quickly.
#10. G-Spot Vibrators
If you are fortunate enough to be a woman who can have an orgasm through G-Spot stimulation, then a G-Spot vibrator can be your best friend. If you find the right one, they can induce a very powerful orgasm in short order. Even if you do not have the typical “G-Spot” orgasm, G-Spot toys are meant to stimulate the internal vaginal canal in a much different way and can really please pleasurable and induce a faster orgasm in general.
#11. Clit Stimulators!
I have to be honest here, I saved the best for last!! For around 80% of women the only way they can orgasm is with clitoral stimulation. So, if you are one of these women or your partner is then a clitoral stimulating toy is the perfect option! Here at TooTimid we offer a wide selection of clit stimulating toys: toys that suck on your clit, toys that rub on your clit, toys that massage your clit.
Remember, it's important to communicate to your partner what you feel comfortable with and what you like when it comes to intimacy. Explore, discover, have fun and be safe doing it.
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